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Attachment style test
Attachment theory began with how infants bond with the people who care for them. Researchers later found the same patterns in adults: in how we handle closeness, dependence, conflict and the fear of being left.
I worry that the people I’m close to don’t care about me as much as I care about them.
About this test
This test measures two things, how much you worry about rejection (anxiety) and how uneasy you are with closeness (avoidance), and places you on the map they make. Think about your close relationships in general, romantic or not, and answer for how you usually feel.
Questions people ask
What are the four attachment styles?
Secure (low anxiety, low avoidance), anxious (high anxiety), avoidant (high avoidance) and fearful-avoidant (high on both). They’re the four corners of the two scales this test measures.
Can your attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment is fairly stable, but it shifts with experience: long, reliable relationships tend to move people toward secure, and therapy can help too.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. Attachment styles describe common patterns in relationships, not a disorder. If relationships are causing you real distress, a therapist is the right person to talk to.